Unfortunately, they are mostly the shocking ugly truths which always never fail to send my blood pressure shooting sky high.
You see, he has been attending Kumon since December last year. It is his choice to go for this class. Hence, he should be giving all out to make sure he does well, isn't that logical? Once, I caught him 'breaking' the first rule of the Kumon routine. He didn't record down the time he took to complete the set he was doing which receive 'hoo-hah' from me. Upon interrogation, all he said was something that didn't make much sense and not even worth my remembering.
In another instance again about Kumon, he was seen copying answers of the worksheets he was 'doing' from his previous completed worksheets. How 'creative' is this fella in making shortcuts?
Catching him clicking away his handphone while he was supposed to be revising his work is already quite common scenes nowadays. It ended up with the custody of the phone taken over by me which always got rebutted by him or getting an earful from me.
How about some of his non-academic books under his reference books? Not unusual. Oh, how I hate to step into his room all because of the fear of discovery of some shocking truths! Believe me there are worse things that had taken place in that room!
The number one rule about coming back home after school was long broken by him. He is supposed to come back home straight from school and if he ever needs to stay back at school, he has to call back home. Not only he doesn't do that when he stays back at school at some occasions, he even came back late when he promised earlier to be home for lunch or on time for Kumon class. Again, his replies to my queries show that he didn't bother much to keep his promise ie to come back on time. Further questioning will reveal this difficult teen's indiscipline. This is the typical Hoe!
" I hung around in school because I want to join my friends..." or "I played basketball ..."
"Why couldn't you come back by the time you promised even if you played basketball?"
"I didn't keep track of the time..."
What do this tell about Hoe? Blatant ignorance to comply to rules! Sigh...
Not only he wasted the lunch cooked for him, he also had to miss the Kumon class as my schedule does not allow me to send the kids for Kumon too late in the evening. Having to wait for Hoe means Wyng will also miss Kumon, something that I don't want to happen. Putting all these 'losses' aside, what is disappointing is his failure to see the negative implications of his defiance and laid-back attitude.
"Why? What's wrong?" These words uttered by Hoe each time an 'offcence' is unfolded are enough to drive me up the wall.
Mom's lessons are many to be learnt and I just wish the pain of learning to cope with my teen is lessened.